Inspiration Tuesday- The Light of Gratitude

light-of-gratitude-11-22-16This week my choice for the Inspiration Tuesday is partially for the Thanksgiving Holiday coming up and for my gratitude for so many people in my life who rekindle my flame. I have so many to thank and so many who inspire me every day. To those who are a light in my life- THANK YOU and to those of you who share your light with others, you are more precious than you will ever know.  We need one another to keep the light of life glowing. If you are struggling to find gratitude, check out my post from earlier this week. Wishing you all out there light and love!

 

 

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How to Feel Grateful, When Life Feels Hard

How to feel Grateful when life feels hard           I have talked  only a tiny bit about losing my baby boy last year. It is a story I plan on sharing here but I want to make sure I share his story when my heart is as ready as it can be.  His first birthday just passed and with this week being Thanksgiving, it felt like the perfect time to talk about being thankful.  Finding gratitude during a time when it’s REALLY difficult to be thankful. It’s hard enough to pull your heart out of the darkness on regular rough days. You know the ones where you put your keys in the wrong place and can’t find your shoes. But the days when life really seems to be throwing you a million curve balls, those are the days are when being grateful can really help pull you up. Continue reading How to Feel Grateful, When Life Feels Hard

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Inspiration Tuesday- Finding Purpose

Inspiration Tues- purpose in lifeThis week’s inspiration Tuesday is going to be a little different. I missed my normal weekly post due to traveling and well, a depressive episode. You see this week marks the week my son was born, just one year ago. Life has moved forward and a lot has changed since he was here and gone. His story is on its way to being told here but I am having a difficult time sharing him with the world. He is so very precious to me and so very special. In fact, he is my source for this week’s Inspiration Tuesday.

I mentioned that I was travelling last weekend. We went to my hometown for a large 80th Birthday gig for my maternal grandparents. They both turned 80 this year and their children decided to throw them this surprise party. I literally had to force myself to go. There are A LOT of people on both sides of my family and there are some very strong opinions that circulate this group of people.  During our journey with Owen, I had a lot of virtual support but not many people knew what to say to me in person. Since his death I really haven’t been to many family gatherings if I know there will be a large amount of people there.  It causes an anxiety I have never had and I hate the awkwardness that my presence seems to trigger for most people. But I went to this party for my grandparents and for my Owen.Finding Purpose

Something very special happened at this birthday party. My two year old was ornery and my husband took over as primary care person so I could chat with a couple of my favorite relatives. Someone who is currently pregnant and had a major scare early on in her pregnancy asked me “How do you do it? How do you get up every day?” She wasn’t rude and in fact she wasn’t at all accusing. It was a genuine question of how I find the strength to put one let in front of the other every single day without my son. I honestly had never really been asked this question and I was so happy she asked when I had the answer. He is my inspiration. Every. Single. Day. He is the reason I get up. Our time together on this little tiny spec in the universe was short and was awesome. He taught me what the bigger picture really is. He taught me to believe in me and he taught me that life is too short to not chase your dreams.

As difficult as it was go to this party and to see so many babies that my son should have been playing with. I am glad for this single moment. I am glad for the clarity of being able to see that my son still walks with me. He is the reason I move forward in life and he is the reason I decided to start this blog. I wanted a place to inspire and to help other mom’s and dad’s through the many different journeys of life. I want to make a difference and I want to inspire the way my Angel Boy inspires me. Do your best to embrace life. Spread love and joy whenever you can. I am a living testament that life is unfair and it is hard, but it can also be joyful and purposeful.

Find your purpose! Find your inspiration! Then come share it here!

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Now is the Time for Love

moms balanced life election voiceI stayed up late last night watching the election results. I wasn’t planning on putting anything here regarding the end of the election. This is supposed to be a place regarding balance and wellness… but I am not well today. To be completely honest I really wasn’t sure if it would be a good idea to post anything but I am a mom and I am a mom of white boys, something that I never thought I would have to write. Something I never thought would be so profound until I started watching the division in the US and watched as the hate spilled from all over Social Media. Continue reading Now is the Time for Love

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Inspiration Tuesday-Empowerment!

Giving yourself the voice to be heard. To be your own warrior and savior takes a lot of guts. In a world where we are yelled at regarding never being good enough and always needing more. “I will be happy when….” how many times have you told yourself this conditional lie?  How many times have you cut yourself down, all because you weren’t the same as someone else or didn’t have the most up to date (insert- phone, TV, etc)? To give yourself permission to run down the path of the unknown and trust in yourself takes listening to those positive whispers. The whispers of “you can” “go for it” “reach for the stars”, and any other form of cheerleading verses. 🙂 But really, move forward, move in a direction you are inspired to be and give yourself the empowerment to achieve those dreams.

 

listen to the positive whispers. give yourself permission to chase your dreams!
listen to the positive whispers. give yourself permission to chase your dreams!

 

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How Writing Can be Theraputic

It’s early in my blogging relationship and I wanted to write for a purpose. I wanted to get all the voices in my head out and give them a place to feel at home. This blog is the one of the best places for it. For as long as I can remember I have loved the art of writing. I wrote songs when I was first able to form sentences, later I realized I had ZERO talent generating a song that was lyrically sound. Later, I began toying with poems and when I get more comfortable here I may share some here. My high school career began and writing projects became a little more in depth. That’s when I was thrown to the wolves. My papers were torn to apart regarding grammar and flow.  My senior year I dropped my creative writing class because I didn’t want to suffer through more criticism.   Continue reading How Writing Can be Theraputic

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How to Handle Being Overwhelmed

As noted in my post last week , I was over the whole being an adult thing. Yup, this mom basically gave up on fulfilling her “chore” list and took a night off. I didn’t do anything glamorous or even venture out of my own house. This lead into a week where we were put into several situations that caused me to be super overwhelmed. So I did some digging around andoverwhelmed and how to handle found a couple of sources I liked for noting what happens to you when you are overwhelmed and how to handle it. I will insert a few of my own tips and tricks for you as well. Continue reading How to Handle Being Overwhelmed

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First Inspiration Tuesday

I wanted to create something that promoted kindness, humility, love and healing without writing a long winded post on how you can create or find all of these things. This birthed the idea of Inspiration Tuesday. I chose the day primarily because there is enough going on during Monday and Wednesday, Thursday and Friday just seemed like they were too far in the week (plus it had it’s own hashtag already!). Tuesday is that weekday where you have found your groove for the week (hopefully) and it’s still early enough in the week that maybe something I post here will stick with you and inspire you to move head on into anything in your path.

Each Tuesday I will post a graphic with an inspirational quote of some sort, however depending on my mood these may have some sass to them as well. There will be a short paragraph as to why something spoke to me and then it will be your turn to post your inspiration in the feed below. I look forward to watching this grow and see what happens each week.

Without further delay- The first of the inspiration Tuesday!

Reflection on Inspiration TuesdayI love this quote because I feel it’s so true. If you take quiet steps, then you have more effective action. I have been quietly pondering this blog for a better part of this year. But in that time I was doing research and really feeling out how I wanted to approach this new adventure. I feel that because I was quiet and reflecting that this blog means so much more to me than just a mom who decided to start a blog. What is your favorite inspiration this week? I love the ideas of growing my inspirational quotes mental library! 🙂 Cheers to a successful week!

 

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No AdultingToday

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This post originally was going to be about finding your personal balance. Balance is unique to each person. Including (but certainly not limited too) how to add that workout to your day, being more diligent with meditation or tackling that pile of laundry in a more “efficient” way.

To be honest, I didn’t feel like adulting. I didn’t feel like I wanted to get up to even make my kids breakfast or situating the dogs before taking off for my full-time in an office.

So here we are, me hosting a blog on “balancing” out life and finding out what works for you and not writing about it. In my welcome post, I said I wasn’t going to sugar coat it here and I am not going to preach perfection on this site. Perfection is a player in the insecurities we face as women, moms, wives, etc. We are BLASTED with images, documents, movies, and anything else that is aimed to trick our brains into making us believe we aren’t enough.

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I felt like a failure, not feeling the writing bug. Not pushing myself for the dream of being able to have a creative outlet.  All these and various other you suck phrases repeated themselves in my head determined to force me to throw in the towel.

While I wasn’t in the mood to really do major research or actually write at all, I still chose to find my voice. I found a tiny bit of inspiration from this quote “Art is, for me, the process of trying to wake up the soul. Because we live in an industrialized, fast-paced world that prefers that the soul remains asleep.” – Bill Viola. I must share my art, even if it’s just the ramblings of a tired cranky mother.  I had to grab this  “I don’t wanna” attitude for more than pouting.

 

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I rationalized if I am having these thoughts running through my head, then maybe you are too. We really do live in a world where the world prefers us to remain on auto pilot.   Our days are more hectic than they were just 30 years ago.  With the advancement of technology, our lives have been pushed to being burned out and overstimulated. We as a population are more tired, more stressed, and in many cases overworked.    The majority of the world works on computers, whether in offices or in homes. Phones and tablets are used during down time, to play games, connect on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. Our brains are being hit almost all the time, from the moment we wake up (because how many people don’t use their phones as an alarm?) and yes, I realize I look like a hypocrite being someone who is an author on a blog; something that requires quite a bit of screen time.  But because we are inundated with a constant stimulus, it can drain us dry. Then when we are using our phones during down time and trying to prop our feet up; we get down on ourselves because “so and so” baked cookies with their little ones and “so and so” traveled with their WHOLE family to Europe for ten days! Then that little whisper in the back of your head you didn’t bake cookies today, you didn’t even cook dinner OR why can’t you look as put together as she is? And the list can go on and on.

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Time to mellow out on the negative criticism and to just chill out. It’s okay to take a breath and really just try not to lose it on your noisy kids who are making a bigger mess in the living room or to get irritated that your husband played on his phone while you tried to fold laundry.  It’s okay to put down said laundry and have a glass of wine, while your noisy kids attempt to read you a terrible story about the puppy with the spot. The amount of pressure we put on ourselves is overwhelming and it’s time to give ourselves a break.

For my break, because I knew if I did one more thing for someone else or if I had to deal with a money issue one more time; I was going to go postal on my family.  I did the following: I turned off my phone (OFF not vibrate) for the entire night, I had a beer in the shower (yes, it counts as therapy), locked the door to the bathroom (keep kids out during a shower), and then I read stories to my two-year-old.

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The laundry sat on the floor, the dishes were done by my husband, and we had something out of a box for dinner. But you know what? No one died, no one was in tears and to be honest, I felt like I could be a better mom and wife after just those small things. I was able to focus on the here and now and enjoy the small amount of time I have with my family.

Here is your permission to lean back, unwind and refuse to adult today. The dishes can wait one more day and the laundry can still be worn if it’s not folded. So pour that glass of wine (or two) and tell yourself how much YOU HAVE DONE and how much you rock and how much you really mean to those noisy kids and the husband playing his phone in the corner.

What is your favorite way to “unadult”?   PS- this is not me in the photo below, but I think I might have to try a selfie this way!

 

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Opening Line!

Author Moms Balanced LifeWelcome, to Mom’s Balanced Life, my goal here is to chat about life, health, wellness and momhood. My name is Heather and I would like to warmly welcome you to my blog!

I am a certified Health Coach who has been “retired” from competitive swimming and water polo, and when I say competitive I mean high school and not at all on the same level as the amazing Olympians we have seen (although I wish!). I am a step mom to a very active tween boy, a mom to a delightfully (albeit difficult sometimes) independent toddler boy and the mom to a special angel baby boy in heaven; I have so much love for all my boys and they will be large character players in my posts here. So if you are an angel momma, step momma, or just a momma (or dads 🙂 ) I have it all here!

My house is rowdy and crowded but it’s awesome on so many levels. Parent’s get stressed out and we struggle some days, believe me I won’t sugar coat it here. Being a step parent is hard, being a parent is hard and someday’s just being human is hard, but that’s why we have support systems. This is what I want to create, a sort of virtual support system. A place where it’s non judgmental, honest (sometimes brutally) but NEVER rude and full of all the feels of being a person on this floating rock in space.

Too many times social and traditional media has tricked us into thinking that balance is easy and just sort of happens. Perfection and effortlessness are the thrown in our faces on a constant basis, even though it’s all a facade . It’s easy to constantly compare our lives to friends, family and the strangers we follow on various websites, apps etc. Life is anything but easy, but finding YOUR place in this world and finding your balance can help ease some of that distress that can come with the thought of “why don’t I have it all?”  Being balanced in life isn’t about obtaining perfection; it’s about your OWN zen and following your heart.

AND If you want to have it all, your version of “it all” then chase like hell after it and work your butt off to get it; here I won’t define having it all, because having it all should mean different things to different people. It’s what makes being human great there is a uniqueness that should be embraced! So let’s take this journey of life, with its ups and downs, crazy twists and turns.

So, as it says in the “Sunscreen” song from Mr. Baz Luhrman  “If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience… I will dispense this advice now.”

Welcome Mom’s Balanced Life, I look forward to sharing this human journey together.


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