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I am the journal queen. I have been writing in a journal since I was in 5th grade. I have all the diaries, notebooks, journals etc, I used to write in. They are full of teenage angst, goals, emotions and a lot of drama.
As I got older my journal served as my bitch spot. If there was any irritation in my life you can bet your ass I was writing about it. I was putting out there how pissed I was about something and sometimes I found a solution. Sometimes it just felt good to tell someone I loved to f**k off in writing.
Since Owen passed away, I began writing for other reasons. I began to focus on being grateful and open to the understanding I cannot control and force life to work the way I want it too. His death taught me just how priceless life is and to shift my perspective of this life to the things that matter most. Like my family and friends, achieving the dreams that I had and quit saying someday.
Now I have two journals. One for the pissy letters and place to vent. And the other is full of goals, self-love, and mantras. I am living a life I am proud of and I want other women to be able to do the same.
Here are five ways to shift your processes and get you feeling the abundance the universe has to offer.
This sounds easy enough right? I wrote a post How to Feel Grateful When Life Feels Hard. It’s difficult to say thank you to anything when life has sucker punched you in the gut.
When we got the news about Owen and his lethal genetic disorder; I still am not sure how I got up the next day. But all of the support and grace we were given by our families and the medical team, helped make it easier to be grateful for his presence in my life. I became a person who learned (not over night or even over a year) to embrace my grief. To be grateful for the life I have and to make my angel boy proud. Grateful he chose me for his mommy and to be honored that I was blessed with the perfect chubby boy. These are not just words I type. I feel these words. I etch them into my soul, especially on the hard days. The days where I am pissed he isn’t here and the days I hate God for choosing me. I know shouldn’t live in that dark place and neither should you.
This life is far too short to stay in the angry place. Find gratitude and you will find a way to the light.
2. Write it out
Yup. Pull out a journal or notebook, find a quiet spot. It could be in your living room or back yard, maybe you take a hike to waterfall. Wherever it is take something to write in. Then write for you. Doesn’t have to be anything in particular. Could be your business dream, a favorite memory, a letter to your partner or mother. Poetry, a story, or song lyrics. Let go of the self-judgment and write. Feel the spirit within you rise to joy and engulf the beauty of this life.
3. Get moving
This is just as cliche as it sounds. But there are plenty of studies (here and here) to support the fact that if you exercise and get your blood flowing you are more likely to channel positive vibes and feel more capable to chase your dreams. Negative thoughts can and do block the drive to achieve scary tasks. This can be as simple as buying a new car to losing 100 lbs. Both are daunting and intimidating in their own way. If you focus too much on the negative then you’re blocking the positive. Take a walk, clear your head. Do yoga and focus on your breath and heart. Go for a hike and pay attention to the scent of the trees, the chirping of the birds. Anything physically active you choose to do, take care to be mindful of that exact activity. Be mindful of your surroundings, the scenery and how you feel at the moment. Come back and channel that energy into your passions!
4. Find your passion
Many times when you set a goal or invest in something you have a why. The key to this why is feeling your why. A fire filled passion that burns in your heart. One that feeds your spirit like nothing else will. Mine is how badly I want life to be mine. I want to live by my rules, my time, and my way. I want to teach my kids that living life is way more about memories than stuff. That’s why I turned a new leaf here and invested in a business that can help fund the life I want.
What’s your passion? What’s your drive?
5. Take Action
The absolute most difficult step. The hardest part is getting out of your own head and ignoring that voice that wants you to give up. The voice that tells you your not good enough. Ignore the loud voice. Channel into the quiet voice. The one that gives you small blips of ideas and knots in your stomach when you are trying something new. Listen to that intuition when it says to reach out to the stranger. Tell your spouse about your crazy visions and how you want to follow them. Whatever you do; you have to move forward. That’s why here you will see more posts and more engagement than before. I want this place to be all about balancing the mind, body, and soul.
This is my dream; what’s yours? What are you willing to do to have the life you know you deserve?
Are you feeling a nudge in your gut to change something or maybe you feel like you are more than a human cog in the machine built by other humans? Join me! Grab a journal and line out those desires. Feel those “crazy” dreams and let’s make our lives ours! You deserve the life you dream and you can have it.
Check out the amazing Spirit Course the group at Girl Tribe is hosting beginning October 1st. I will be doing this along with you! It’s time to get real about intent action and feeling those desires. Make sure you let them know Heather at Mom’s Balanced Life sent you.
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